But how often does it happen that we are being the way we are meant to be. I believe that to arrive at this state is a very long process, some never arriving there because of programming since childhood, because of mirroring, because of circumstances, to name just a few reasons why it is difficult to be that.

I believe that this something to strive for, but given our daily challenges of life, it is difficult to be that all the time.

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Robin, this is well-said. Thank you for staying true to yourself and offering a take that is different to the dominant view of soicety and the basis of so many self-help books and life skills courses. There has been a quiet 'revolution' of the "third voice" and perhaps it's not so quiet anymore - thanks to people like you how are articulating what people have been looking for and what I believe rings true for so many. THE OLD no longer works - it's time to listen up and KNOW and BE what we already are.

Hi Jennifer

I hear you. It can be the most difficult thing to be ourselves in the world where such a natural thing is discouraged, and where image is promoted everywhere. It is an ongoing journey to discover who we are.

Yet it is also so simple. We just have to stop being who we are not, and who we are remains. We have to accept and love ourselves as we are. It is not something to strive for, because striving is the work of the ego that tricks us out of ourselves even further.

It is more like an awakening. It might seem challenging but those challenges are reminders to come back, to gently bring ourselves back to who we are. Every time we do, who we are emerges more.

Gently, gracefully and wonderfully, authenticity and presence take over.

Thank you, Carol. You say it so well. It seems that many people have read all the how-to books out there and reached the limit of what these offer. They have also realised that the unspoken assumptions these approaches promote are not healthy.

People want what's real now, and everyone is finding their own way to be it.